Household chores are a responsibility that corresponds to all the members of the house to maintain a good living; However, in each family and house this is a reality that is lived in a different way. Due to the pandemic, various dynamics were modified, including participation in domestic work.
The inevitable circumstances changed the panorama for the families, leading the members to carry out tasks that were not previously part of their occupations. Carlos Serrano Arias is 19 years old and María has always been a collaborator in the order of the home. Due to the pandemic, María was unable to attend work for several months, so he, his parents and sister had to organize to clean up. Carlos says that the quarantine experience "was something strange" especially for him, because he was used to having someone else perform certain tasks.
But rescue the benefit of the crisis, because She says she became more independent. "Chef, gardener, fishmonger, and much more" is how he describes his role at home in quarantine. Things are back to normal a bit, the people who work at home are already going to work, so it is not his job to take care of the garden or the pool, although in confinement he discovered a taste for cooking and says that that yes it continued doing it.
Carlos' experience due to his age and family context is different from what a married couple may have gone through. Make-up artist Andrea Navarrete and her husband, the journalist and lawyer Rogelio Arosemena, while taking care of the house also did it with their four children (two teenagers and two young girls). "Inadvertently wanting" the couple organized, they never raised it, but cooperation flowed naturally.
“For example, I was in charge of the kitchen and the clothes; Rogelio, cleaning and tidying ”, Andrea says and adds with laughter that before her children who“ did nothing ”dedicated themselves to washing the dishes and it is something that lasts until now that they already have a collaborator for that.
Navarrete confesses: "For the first time in life in these 20 years of marriage I felt that we were a team ”, also clarifies that it is not that she was doing badly in her marital relationship, but that the rapport and help that they managed to offer each other with her husband and also with her children "was very cool". Currently with activities going on and with occupations, the couple knows how to divide the aid, so that both can dedicate time to their working lives as well.
The psychologist Mariana Bermúdez maintains that the organization distributed in the housework “increases the sense of belonging, teamwork and cohesion, fundamental aspects in a family dynamic that strengthens affective ties and adds a plus to the mission of the family during times of crisis, which are inevitable ”.
In Ecuadorian society, the heteropatriarchal model, according to Eduardo Muñoa, who for years has been dedicated to the field of research around masculinity. This model focuses domestic work on women and gives men the role of external provider, within the family dynamic. However, due to different circumstances, this model changed for some families. The psychologist maintains that mental flexibility is important in these cases because if there is not, unnecessary suffering is generated and she aims to unlearn that there are specific roles for each gender, since this will lead to living in an environment of more respect and complementarity.
During the quarantine, collaborative work became essential, involving members of all ages. Household chores may not only correspond to adults within the home, but also to children or adolescents within a framework according to their abilities and age. Teaching children about different tasks and how they can be elaborated can be positive socially. The psychologist Mariana Bermúdez assures that accustoming minors to this “strengthens aspects such as individuality, responsibility and self-esteem, since feeling able to carry out tasks on their own, which must also be positively reinforced by their parents through recognition and gratitude, increases the degree of autonomy and favorable perception of themselves. "
A reality that touched several families, but that really becomes a benefit for the cohesion between the members and also for personal development. (I)